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Follow these tips to keep those New Year's resolutions

By: Angela Ponivas
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Many people begin the New Year with resolutions, but inevitably get off track, make mistakes, lose momentum and begin to feel defeated. Everyone fails, and those who succeed have also failed many times. Here are ten tips to help you succeed. 1. Learn from your mistakes and failures. How did you learn to ride a bike? The short answer is you fell off 100 times. Similarly, every time you make a mistake or fail, learn from it so that you are better prepared next time. 2. Don’t dwell on it. Now that you have learned something from your mistake, move on. Don’t dwell on your past. You can’t tell where you are going if you continually look backwards. 3. Don’t be afraid to try again. Don’t let the fear from your last failure stop you. Failure is the road necessary for success. 4. Think about worse case scenarios. If you don’t succeed, what will the outcome be? Is it something terrible or is it something manageable? Usually, the outcome will not be as bad as we think, so if it’s manageable, keep moving forward. 5. Take baby steps. If your fear is extreme or preventing you from moving forward, ease your way forward, dividing the steps into smaller, more manageable and achievable steps. 6. Tell yourself you can do it and believe you can. Just because you may have failed at something in the past, doesn’t mean you will fail again. If you fail, at least you took that chance. Keep positive and do your best, because reaching a level of confidence is a definitive measure of success. 7. Surround yourself with positive people. Surround yourself with successful people that have done what you want to do. One of the best ways to overcome failure is to learn how other people. This will not only encourage you, but give you the proof that it can be done. 8. Talk to others (or read). Find out what made others succeed and ask if they have any tips. They’ll likely be able to offer some moral support and words of wisdom, or get a book on the topic and learn from someone else. 9. Realize that failure is part of the learning curve. Failure and mistakes aren’t fun, but they help us learn to be great at whatever we are trying to achieve. “There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.” - Colin Powell 10. Mobilize your fear. Fear can be a powerful motivator. Use it to your advantage. Allow it to inspire and motivate rather than paralyze you. Angela Ponivas is the Executive Director of Lighthouse Counseling and Family Resource Center